I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 5

One of the hardest things about losing a loved one, is the feeling of strangling, lingering grief and loss at, not only things you used to do together, but things you had planned to do together. Do you go ahead and do them alone? With someone else? Are the things you used to do together […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 3

I said in week one that the profound absence of my late husband felt like a lost limb–a phantom pain that was hard to explain at the time. The pain in the first few weeks and months is constantly exposed and magnified by every day actions. Things as simple as going to the bathroom, taking […]

Grief: Degrees of Grief

Before you start reading this particular blog post, maybe you’d like to read the real time experience of my grief at: http://www.adeafinthefamily.com . At that site, both Sam and I wrote blog posts. It was OUR site. It was about OUR life. When he died, I started to write letters to him there, experimented with […]