I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief week 14

Things come up when you least expect them. My new DH (dear hubby) said he found something in the suitcase and it was potentially emotional. He asked if I thought I could handle it now or later. Having no idea what it was, and he afraid to go into much detail, I thought I could […]

I don’t know what to tell you: week 13

Sometimes I will miss Sam and not know what I should do about it. Should I indulge myself and talk to him as if he’s listening or would that be considered disloyal to my new husband? Can I watch a video here was in? Should I rad his old journal entries or our text messages? […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Week 10

This isn’t about grief. This is about what grief does to your future relationships. This week my (new) husband is on a business trip in Ohio. When he arrived there were tornado alerts and the Mall across from his hotel was still dark from losing power earlier in the morning. I asked him what city […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 5

One of the hardest things about losing a loved one, is the feeling of strangling, lingering grief and loss at, not only things you used to do together, but things you had planned to do together. Do you go ahead and do them alone? With someone else? Are the things you used to do together […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 3

I said in week one that the profound absence of my late husband felt like a lost limb–a phantom pain that was hard to explain at the time. The pain in the first few weeks and months is constantly exposed and magnified by every day actions. Things as simple as going to the bathroom, taking […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief week 2

My experience: I remember reading, in my quest to figure out my own grief, that you could cut your crying in half if you just set the goal to give yourself some set amount of time to cry. I found this concept very strange at the time. I remember being at my desk about three […]

I don’t know what to tell you: week 1 of GRIEF

It’s very hard to write about grief while in the midst of it. C.S. Lewis wrote his book on grief–A Grief Observed–while going through the process. He was a well established author by then, and there could be no other way to work it out for him. Joan Didon was also an established writer of […]