A grief reviewed: Week 24 — The New normal

Establishing a new normal is so difficult and disruptive that entire families can be torn apart even if only one member of the family is experiencing the grief. Reaction outside the family can vary from empathy to outright hostility leading to equally disruptive actions. It is a time that many relapse to old addictions, develop […]

Grief: this is my understanding about it week 20

When I first became a widow, I realized the word grief being used for anything else other than the death of a loved one puts that emotion on a scale so long that it starts to lose its significance. Being a widow is nothing like being divorced. I know because I’ve experienced both. Losing a […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 19

I’m not sure how many weeks I am actually going to do this. I was hoping if I did enough, I could organize them somehow into some sort of cohesive, organized, step by step process or program or… something, on what grief is like or how to climb out of it. I would be a […]

I don’t know what to tell you: grief week 17

The other night I had a dream that I was in my own room, but it was bit and all in shades of white and eggshell. I understood it was a room of healing and it was in Imildris (also known as Rivendale in the Lord of the Rings). The room was beautiful and it […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 15

I remember in the 90’s there was a lot of talk about co-dependency, and I thought that meant depending on someone so much, you couldn’t function without them. It was a sort of addiction, in a way. At least it was to my understanding. But the entire purpose of a marriage is for you to […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief week 14

Things come up when you least expect them. My new DH (dear hubby) said he found something in the suitcase and it was potentially emotional. He asked if I thought I could handle it now or later. Having no idea what it was, and he afraid to go into much detail, I thought I could […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief week 2

My experience: I remember reading, in my quest to figure out my own grief, that you could cut your crying in half if you just set the goal to give yourself some set amount of time to cry. I found this concept very strange at the time. I remember being at my desk about three […]

Experience makes you sweeter

The sweetest juice doesn’t come from the youngest or the freshest fruit, it doesn’t come from fruit that refuses to fall off the tree; it comes from the fruit that has fallen to the ground, been tumbled about and looks like it’s about to explode with age. Remember that. — swampfaye (@swampfaye) May 16, 2018 […]

American Values – Industry (diligencia)

Jamestown as it may have looked to the Pilgrims Industry, in the context we will be addressing it, according to Mirriam Webster’s Dictionary is: diligence in an employment or pursuit; especially : steady or habitual effort systematic labor especially for some useful purpose or the creation of something of value All Early American colonists struggled. […]