I don’t know what to tell you: grief week 16

Can you be addicted to a person? In Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) they have a twelve-step program in which members admit that they are powerless over alcohol and need help from a “higher power”. Can you be powerless over a person? Certainly as an adult with another adult that is possible, but do you need help […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 15

I remember in the 90’s there was a lot of talk about co-dependency, and I thought that meant depending on someone so much, you couldn’t function without them. It was a sort of addiction, in a way. At least it was to my understanding. But the entire purpose of a marriage is for you to […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief week 14

Things come up when you least expect them. My new DH (dear hubby) said he found something in the suitcase and it was potentially emotional. He asked if I thought I could handle it now or later. Having no idea what it was, and he afraid to go into much detail, I thought I could […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: grief week 8

Here is the awful, horrible truth of being the living one, left behind. I liked myself better when I was with Sam. It’s not just that we got along well, because we didn’t always. I got tired of his paranoia, his fights of faith and logic, and then there was always the miscommunications that go […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 5

One of the hardest things about losing a loved one, is the feeling of strangling, lingering grief and loss at, not only things you used to do together, but things you had planned to do together. Do you go ahead and do them alone? With someone else? Are the things you used to do together […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 3

I said in week one that the profound absence of my late husband felt like a lost limb–a phantom pain that was hard to explain at the time. The pain in the first few weeks and months is constantly exposed and magnified by every day actions. Things as simple as going to the bathroom, taking […]

I don’t know what to tell you: week 1 of GRIEF

It’s very hard to write about grief while in the midst of it. C.S. Lewis wrote his book on grief–A Grief Observed–while going through the process. He was a well established author by then, and there could be no other way to work it out for him. Joan Didon was also an established writer of […]

A Silent Voice – Review

A Silent Voice Trailer I have to admit my bias in wanting to view this movie. It involves a deaf student and is dubbed by a deaf actress (Lexi Marman). It was offered by Fathom events January 31st and will be released on Blueray in the US on April 2nd. The story follows a young […]

2 of the 4 Types of People Grievers Meet

There are 4 types of people you will encounter as someone who is grieving: The Empath The Telepath The Critic The Bulldozer In this post, we are going to cover the first two. The last two will come in following posts. THE EMPATH There will be those who understand completely what you are […]

Grief: Survivors Guilt

“If I die,” Sam told me from his hospital bed, “I want you to be okay.” “You’re not going to die.” I told him. Though he probably couldn’t hear me, even with his CI (Cochlear Implant) on. It was always hard for him to hear when he was distracted, and he was very distracted at […]