Do what you can

You can’t be everything to anyone but you can be something very important to someone.

A grief reviewed: Week 24 — The New normal

Establishing a new normal is so difficult and disruptive that entire families can be torn apart even if only one member of the family is experiencing the grief. Reaction outside the family can vary from empathy to outright hostility leading to equally disruptive actions. It is a time that many relapse to old addictions, develop […]

A grief Reviewed – week 23 – Defining “normal”

I’m starting to write my book, and you will be my beta readers. Prologue: Defining Our Normal To understand the impacts of grief on your life, you muddy first look back at your baseline. The baseline for our family was much different than most. My husband, Sam was deaf and legally blind. He knew he […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief week 22

If I were going to do a step by step on how to approach grief, my first step would be to state very clearly, in every conversation that contains the subject to which you are grieving over, that you are not asking for “help” or “advice” as a preemptive strike against someone offering anything that […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief Week 21

What if something happens to my daughter and i don’t get to tell her I love her or how proud I am of her? What if our last conversation is our last conversation? I know it’s not something most people think about, but I think about it all the time now–and I know why I […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 19

I’m not sure how many weeks I am actually going to do this. I was hoping if I did enough, I could organize them somehow into some sort of cohesive, organized, step by step process or program or… something, on what grief is like or how to climb out of it. I would be a […]

I don’t know what to tell you week 18

Is it my imagination or were things really that good? Is it by actual comparison that things look so bad? Or is it just a dream invading my reality. I don’t know but the last time a dream invaded my reality, it wasn’t easy, but it was beautiful.

Sam’s seeing eye girl

Sam didn’t like me following him when he ran to the store or things like that. He wanted his independence, but I sent someone along anyway and Sam ward okay with a kid going with him. She learned to tell when he was getting frustrated and Sam called her his seeing eye girl. She is […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief week 14

Things come up when you least expect them. My new DH (dear hubby) said he found something in the suitcase and it was potentially emotional. He asked if I thought I could handle it now or later. Having no idea what it was, and he afraid to go into much detail, I thought I could […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Week 10

This isn’t about grief. This is about what grief does to your future relationships. This week my (new) husband is on a business trip in Ohio. When he arrived there were tornado alerts and the Mall across from his hotel was still dark from losing power earlier in the morning. I asked him what city […]