I don’t know what to tell you: grief week 12

There was a crazy storm here the week of the 9th. It was calm, then windy like a tornado, then crazy calm again. The lights went out, sirens were blaring everywhere, and I rad had at my husband because he’d been short with me. But with the crazy calm silence I couldn’t stop the […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Week 10

This isn’t about grief. This is about what grief does to your future relationships. This week my (new) husband is on a business trip in Ohio. When he arrived there were tornado alerts and the Mall across from his hotel was still dark from losing power earlier in the morning. I asked him what city […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief Week 9

Sorry I’ve missed a week or two (and yes, I had two week 8’s for some reason). I’ve been really busy pulling my small business together: http://www.2ndlifedolls.com and trying to bring together a video for an indigogo project. We, new hubby and I, went to see Tolkien last night and it was a beautiful movie. […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: grief week 8

Here is the awful, horrible truth of being the living one, left behind. I liked myself better when I was with Sam. It’s not just that we got along well, because we didn’t always. I got tired of his paranoia, his fights of faith and logic, and then there was always the miscommunications that go […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 8

There is a promise in the bible- a commandment with a promise– Honor thy father and thy mother that your days may be long upon the earth. I remember that phrase and the promise because I had always been a good daughter. I knew I would grow to be very old–because I’m a believer. What’s […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 5

One of the hardest things about losing a loved one, is the feeling of strangling, lingering grief and loss at, not only things you used to do together, but things you had planned to do together. Do you go ahead and do them alone? With someone else? Are the things you used to do together […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief week 4

It was hard to start writing this because my husband was working from home, and there’s still this strange sort of barrier that I don’t know how to remove properly between he and I with regards to talking about my late husband. Talking about the dead is always a touchy subject, but talking about your […]

I Don’t Know What To Tell You: Grief Week 3

I said in week one that the profound absence of my late husband felt like a lost limb–a phantom pain that was hard to explain at the time. The pain in the first few weeks and months is constantly exposed and magnified by every day actions. Things as simple as going to the bathroom, taking […]

I don’t know what to tell you: Grief week 2

My experience: I remember reading, in my quest to figure out my own grief, that you could cut your crying in half if you just set the goal to give yourself some set amount of time to cry. I found this concept very strange at the time. I remember being at my desk about three […]

I don’t know what to tell you: week 1 of GRIEF

It’s very hard to write about grief while in the midst of it. C.S. Lewis wrote his book on grief–A Grief Observed–while going through the process. He was a well established author by then, and there could be no other way to work it out for him. Joan Didon was also an established writer of […]